Goals for May: Enjoy summer, stop eating potato chips, read more.
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Goals for May: Enjoy summer, stop eating potato chips, read more.
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
In other news, "Nor did coffee and other caffeine sources affect depression scores." Phew, don't drag my coffee into this too.
Monday, April 26, 2010
Friday, April 23, 2010
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
A few things are on my mind, but the trouble is theming them all together. "You could be anywhere in the world right now, and you're here..." -Jay-Z in Izzo which is a track on the mix CD in my car right now. Every time I here him say this in appreciation to his audience, it resonates with me, and I think, "I could be anywhere in the world right now and I'm here." More often than not "here" is somewhere along my commute to and from work, but it's rather empowering to think that I could be anywhere in. the. world. And sometimes depressing that I have chosen Dallas (for now).
My new favorite activity is taking George on playdates with his best friend Kali, they're in love, dog love! Kali's mommy, Katie, has become a good friend of mine in this new city and we will stand out on the grassy knoll drinking wine, gossiping, and talking about relationships, jobs, life while George and Kali play for hours. It's the perfect system, and we end up with dead tired dogs who quickly go to sleep once they're back inside. Everyone wins.
Monday, April 19, 2010
Friday, April 16, 2010
I have to give a speech this weekend to a group of young and aspiring writers. I was told they'd want to hear about my process, and about the writing life, both personally and professionally; I was told they wanted advice. I quickly drew a blank. Advice? For writers? Isn't anything I might say hopelessly subjective? There is good advice out there, some really wise books about the subject. But I think the truth is that even if you hear these smart and reasoned pointers, you still have to stumble and flail your way to your own wisdom before the words of others make a useful, deep kind of sense. As I stared at my blank document, all I could think about were those newspaper romance columns. Advice for the lovelorn. I got sidetracked. I started to think of what I might say if I were Miss Lonely Hearts. This is what I came up with.
1. Love should bother you.
2. If someone asks you where your favorite place in the world is, you will answer Tahiti or New Zealand or Jones Beach, but you will really be picturing your lover's body.
3. You will never know your partner.
4. You should never know your partner.
5. You will never know how things will end up.
6. You should never know how things will end up.
7. But if you get to the place where things do end, your level of surprise and emotional distress should be tempered by your sense that you could not have ended up any place else.
8. Every day you will have to recreate your love.
9. It will get better with age.
10. Don't panic.
I don't think I can show up at my speaking engagement and deliver love advice and still get paid. But I do think I can extrapolate:
1. Your work will bother you. It will follow you around like an annoying little brother, pinching you every so often, even when you want to be doing other things with other people. When you hit on an idea that feels rich to you, it will not leave you alone. And when you try to attack the idea with words on paper, and when you fail again and again, and swear that you are ready to put the idea away, that it just doesn't work, you will find yourself lying in bed at night still thinking about it. If the idea is meaningful enough to you on some very visceral and emotional level, you will have to do battle with it until you make a narrative out of it.
2. Your work will feel like a wonderful place you can go. It will feel like a place you have to go. It might feel like the only place in the world where you can really explore and express every hidden, beautiful, ugly part of you. It will be your home ground.
3. People will ask you what your work means and you will try to explain it to them, but you won't really be able to explain it even if it sounds like you are saying something intelligent.
4. You should not be able to explain it. There should always be something ineffable and mysterious about it, even for you. If you've got all the answers, your work will not soar.
5. If you write with a narrative goal in mind, or if you write trying to shoehorn themes and big ideas into your work, it will become leaden and sink.
6. The only way to write fiction that will take someone else by surprise is to let your work take you by surprise too. Get lost. Be scared. Have no idea where you're headed. All those wrong directions are really right directions because they get you where you want to go.
7. You'll know you're at the end when you write something utterly unexpected and surprising to you, and then, when you try to write past it, and then realize you don't need to and that you can't.
8.. Fiction is a living thing. Each day, you have to recreate not only the work, but who you are as a writer. You have to ask yourself all over again why you're doing what you're doing, and how you're going to do what you want to do, even if you gave yourself a perfectly good answer the day before. Don't stop making yourself answer that question. It's crucial.
9. Rewrite, rewrite, rewrite.
10. Your work will often look horrible and embarrassing.It will be unoriginal. It will fill you with shame. You will lie down on your bed and think that no one has ever written more awful, ungainly sentences than you. Get up off the bed. Don't panic. Like any kid - your work has to go through its awkward, pimply faced adolescence before it emerges as something another person might want to look at, hold in her hands, take into her heart.
Like all advice, take it or leave it. Even if you reject some or all of it, the process of considering it and tossing it out will get you closer to identifying what writing means for you.
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Girl's night with Sushi and wine!!
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
So, last night I went out with one of my best friends for some much-needed Mexican food. It was amazing. But we got to talking, as most girls do, and we started discussing what a strange time of our lives we are in. We are 20-somethings in long term relationships and have gotten to the place where we either want to be married or single and living it up (a margarita-induced convo).
I struggle with this a lot, because I feel like I shouldn't spend my life wanting something else, but it's hard not to right now. I don't want to pressure my bf, but I don't want to sit around and wait for something to happen either. It's a hard life (ha!). This is like the prime time of life and I want to enjoy it. But at the same time do I need to be single to enjoy it? Aaah! Is there a cure for contentment? I just don't want to regret anything, but I definitely want more. What's a 20-something to do?!
(image: Peter Lindbergh)
Classy and Fun:
Practical and goes with my purse:
Or should I just go for it:
Which all led me to this potential purchase:
What do you think?
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Life Lesson #1:
Always have something to say.
When surrounded by others, it is important for me to find something interesting and different to talk about. I want to connect with them in some productive manner. Maybe this is from a desire to make a lasting impression, I'm not sure, but I do know that I want to know people, and rarely does that come from talking about the weather.
When I'm nervous, there is unnecessary rambling that I resort to or, even worse, telling jokes, FAIL. And so I have decided, through countless life experiences that it is always better to have something to say on standby, some little (relevant) tidbit to share.* This is my first (very humble) life lesson. When you are at a party and the conversation begins to lull, you insert this little tidbit that's been stored up for moments like this. I always find it easier to meet and relate to people when I have something interesting to talk about, rather than exchanging the monotonous, where are you from? what do you do? conversations.
*Disclaimer-It is not always wise to say what you have to say, but let the option exist.
Monday, April 5, 2010
Oh Monday, thanks for ruining my weekend. In light of this unfortunate event, I will focus on the happy things.
My family. They all came to visit this past weekend for Easter and it was wonderful. They are amazing, and I love them.
The Starbucks coffee I'm drinking to wake me up...White Chocolate Mocha misto=perfect.
My boyfriend. He's pretty great and he spent his whole weekend with me entertaining the fam=winner/keeper.
My job. Particularly in this economy, I'm truly thankful to be employed and work with such wonderful people.
George. My goofy little (really big, actually) boxer. He peed inside last night so Jeff wasn't too happy with him, but he's just such a cutie!
The creative outlet that is this blog, I've really grown fond of this, even though I've only just begun. And the people here are lovely and encouraging, which helps in life.
April!! My brother's birthday is this weekend and my birthday is two days later...I love good celebrations.
Friday, April 2, 2010
Thursday, April 1, 2010
How cute is this? I love this little touch of something special to gifting some red wine...
Wine recommendation: Crios! (particularly the torrontes for spring/summer)
It is such a great, reliable brand of wine from Mendoza, Argentina. My boyfriend and I went to Mendoza almost a year ago, and the wine is incredible, we're partial.
April is here and thus begins birthday month! My birthday (most importantly), my brother's birthday (the big 2-1) and then two of my friends' birthdays. It will be a rather eventful month, and I'm ready for it after enduring this dreary winter.